Dealing With Jealousy in Swinging

Dealing With Jealousy in Swinging?
Jealousy is a natural emotion when contemplating or more commonly after swinging. Sometimes it is am immediate issue and sometimes it develops over time, or just suddenly pops up.

Due to the nature of swinging it will always be there to a degree. It is natural to feel jealousy when the person you hold most dear is having sexual relations of some kind with someone else. For some it is the “twinge” of jealousy that provides the adrenaline rush that makes the lifestyle so exciting… kind of like the proposition of being caught having sex in public.

Whether it is society or nature that makes us feel so protective over sharing our partner with someone else is irrelevant, the fact is that it happens. The impotant question is how we deal with it..

The hope that most people hold when they first start swinging is that the jealousy will diminish with time, and yes it does tend to for most people. But not for everyone. For those who continue to feel jealousy after they have been swinging for some time it can be particualrly difficult, especially if their partner doesn’t feel the same.

Sometimes the simple pleasure derived from seeing your partner have their fantasies realized will be enough to overcome the jealousy.

Again we come back to the importance of communicating. If you continue to feel jealousy it is important to discuss it with your partner, it may be the only way your will be able to continue swinging.

Talking with your partner will often help you to realise that their enjoyment of swinging is dependant on your presence because of their feelings for you.

If you are still uncomfortable with the situation then it is only through discussing it with your partner that you will come to an agreement about how to proceed that you are both happy with.

You may find that by discussing it you can come to an agreement about what you can and can’t handle in a swinging situation, what makes you feel jealousy and what you are comfortable with.

You and your partner are likley to be able to set new boundaries and rules that you both feel happy with, as we discussed in previous atricles.

Every couple must find their own level of what they are happy with in swinging. There are no fixed rules that apply to everyone.

Everytime you swing the situation is likely to be at least a little different and new things will pop up (no pun intended;) now and then, so it is important to always discuss things with your partner.

Honesty is the single most important element in any relationship, and it is essential in swinging, you and your partner must both know how you each feel about any given situation to avoid any resentment or distrust building up.

It is typical for swingers to have a more open and honest relationship than many non-swinging couples, so jealousy is not normally a problem for long.

At the end of the day though, if it becomes a major problem and it does not go away, then you may need to reassess your involvement in the swinging lifestyle, it is not for everyone after all. This is why it is not a good idea to try swinging if your relationship is not as solid as it could be. Swinging is not a cure for a relationship that has lost it’s sparkle, it can have entirely the wrong effect.

What allowed Michael and I to “break through” jealousy issues was a simple yet profound realization or acceptance of this fact: I am never going to leave him (and he knows this) and I am absolutely confident that he is never going to leave me. We are soulmates, each for the other and completely in love. Sex is supposed to be fun, fantasies are natural and we all have them. The lifestyle and this absolute confidence in our relationship provides a safe and exciting environment to explore our sexual fantasies.

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