Swinging What Should I Expect

Swinging What Should I Expect?

Getting started in the Lifestyle is not an easy thing.  It is one of the most gut-wrenching decisions a person/couple will ever make.  Society has built up around us a set of traditional values that Swinging essentially disregards.  Many “Virgin Swingers” must set aside certain sexual values that they were raised with, in order to step into the Lifestyle.  They must be emotionally strong and mature, openminded, adventurous, understanding, respectful, courteous, and discreet.

For Couples, entering the Lifestyle is a huge step, and a huge risk.  First, you need to gather as much information on the Lifestyle as possible.  The information on this website is a good first step, as is purchasing any one of a number of books (listed below), or a good Swingers publication at a local adult bookstore.

Next, you need to discuss your feelings with your mate.  Test the waters in passing, first.  Make an offhand remark about “seeing something on TV about Swinging”, or something to that extent.  If you feel your mate is open to the idea, sit down and have a more open discussion about each others dreams, fantasies, and concerns.  If you and your mate reach a consensus, then move on to the next step.  Otherwise, do not even think about entering the Lifestyle.

Next, if you and your mate reach an agreement to consider Swinging, examine your relationship.  Are you and your mate suffering any problems with one another?  Are you both mature and strong enough to overcome any potential jealousy that may come to light in a Swinging experience?  Always remember that Swinging enhances your relationship.  If there are any problems in your relationship, Swinging will make them worse.  If you and your mate have developed a strong and loving relationship, Swinging may improve your relationship dramatically.  The biggest problems in Swinging comes from people who are ill-prepared to step into the Lifestyle.

Finally, decide what it is you want to accomplish in the Lifestyle, sexually.  Set agreed upon limits and rules for both you and your mate to abide by, and stick with them.  As you progress into the Lifestyle, adjust those limits and rules as you both see fit, making sure to respect each other’s level of comfort.

For Singles, entering the Lifestyle is much more difficult.  It is recommended that you find a partner of the opposite sex first, with an equal interest in the Lifestyle, before you enter it.  Couples almost always fare better than Singles… but not always there are women out there like me who are always looking for hot single guys to join us

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