Your First Swinging Date

YOUR FIRST SWINGING ‘DATE’

If you have already met a couple and are planning to swing, it is a good idea to meet at a restaurant or bar to break the ice. You have both previously decided you like this couple so the problem of attraction is no longer an issue… Just be sure to eat a light dinner if you do meet at a restaurant. A heavy meal can impede sensuality and cause stomach problems.

If you have met online or through ads, but have not met in person is is also a good idea to meet at a restaurant or bar to break the ice. If the couple does not look anything like their photos, you should tell them so. You then have every reason to cut the date short as these people cannot be trusted. Be polite, and bow out gracefully. Michael and I have had to do this a number of times.

Before the meeting, the two of you should have worked out a signal (our signal at dinner…if we order dessert it’s a no go) as to whether you want to swing with these people. As you can be sure they have with each other. Otherwise, it can be very awkward and you may get into something you don’t really want to do. Remember – this is supposed to be fun and recreation. Do not let yourself be pressured or be made to feel guilty if you decide you don’t want to swing with them.

For most couples this is exciting and at the same time frightening first meeting. You have probably fantasized about thousands of possible scenarios that can develop between four of you. But now you are going to actually meet them face to face and experience it for real. So, what should you expect and not to expect from your first date?

It is very important to make sure that you’ve talked in lengths with the couple you’re going to meet. Talk about the boundaries and limitations that you and your partner have set for your first experience. Make sure to communicate to them things like how far you would like to go if things click right, what is OK and what is not OK to do and to say.

You, also, should find out what their boundaries and limits are. Many couples prefer to have a no strings attached meeting at first. Some prefer to go all the way. Others would set a limit on flirting and light touching. Maybe exchanging partners on the dance floor or for a pool game. It’s all up to you as long as everyone is aware of what the limits are.

It is a good idea to set your first date at a restaurant or a bar. Make sure it’s not too quiet so you can talk on any spicy topic you want. If you live a good distance from each other, suggest to meet half way, so it’s convenient for everybody.

When you finally meet your couple face to face – it’s OK to through a complement or two and it’s also OK to mention if you’re nervous. They probably are too and it puts everybody at easy just a bit. Once you’ve settled down at a table or at a bar – it’s all up to you four. Some popular topics for the conversations are about how you have met each other, other couples you’ve gone out with, why you have decided to join the lifestyle, etc.

Once you have spent about an hour or two with a couple – you probably have formed a good idea about whether all four of you have clicked or if you don’t think you want to see them ever again. Make sure to figure out some sort of a way to communicate between each other about your feelings in either situation. Maybe tapping each other in a certain way, or working some “keyword” or a phrase into the conversation – you can get as creative as you want. If you would rather cut the evening short and go home – you can just politely say your goodbyes at the end of the dinner and be on your way. If you’re being offered to prolong the evening, you can always mention that you have prior commitments for the rest of the day. That will get you out of the situation safe and without hurting their feelings.

If you want to continue your adventure with them, but don’t necessary want to go into the bedroom – there are other things you can do to continue the spicy evening. You can go to places like billiards, bowling or just take a walk and chat. It really is up to you and what everybody is comfortable with at that moment.

If you feel like you want to do something more upbeat, you can offer them to go out dancing to a local club. If you are all getting along well, another sexy idea may be to exchange partners right there on the dance floor. Watching your partner dance with someone else can be a turn-on on its own and give you a little preview of what may follow in later encounters.

Some couples prefer to turn it up a little more and visit a local strip club especially if one of the activities you are interested in is a girl-girl action. Or you can go to a swing club and maybe get even wilder there. However, be careful about proposing such ideas. Make sure to bring it up politely and give everybody a chance to say no if they are not comfortable with it at that point.

You don’t have to go all the way on your first date or even get sexual at all. As a matter of fact, a lot of couples prefer to prolong the non-sexual activities for a while. That is due to a fact that many couples love the flirting, sexual tension and the mystery just as much as the sexual encounter itself. Some of the activities that can prolong the enjoyment of the experience before the first sexual encounter include going out shopping for sexy outfits where everybody models them for the rest of the group. Going out on separate dates is something that some couples do to get to know each others’ partners a little better as well as to increase the comfort level. Some couples enjoy sharing a Jacuzzi together, exchanging partners for a massage and many other activities that do not necessary involve sex, but many consider just as arousing and sexy.

Even though you have probably all talked about what you are looking for and what you expect from your experiences via e-mail, phone or Instant Messenger, you should talk more about it face to face which maybe a little awkward at first, but you’ll find that the conversation can be very sexy and arousing. Share with them any fantasies that you might have had about your possible encounters. They have probably had a few themselves. All of this will ease you up into escalating your relationship to a next level.

Some couples feel comfortable with each other right away and decide to engage in sexual activities the same evening. Those encounters usually happen at one of the couple’s home, hotel room, swing club, and sometimes even in a car. It is really up to you! Some prefer to have their first experience in separate rooms, some prefer to keep it in the same room. Many times everybody starts with their own partners and the exchange occurs later on. Or sometimes it happens vice versa where you swap for the foreplay, but join your partner for the later activities.

We hope no matter how far you go on your first date, your evening is enjoyable and you at least make two new friends if nothing else. Enjoy your experience!

A Couples click Tip:

When you get to your location weather its a home or hotel room etc the easiest way to get started is with your own spouse. First you are already comfortable with each other, know each others bodies and know how to get the other aroused. It also helps to show the other couple you are interested in being intimate.

As a general standard of practice I always initiate the next step… weather its asking the other couple if I can join them, or subtly moving closer to them and beginning to caress the husband or wife it is always less threatening to have the women make the first moves.

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